Man Blames Penis-Shaming In ‘Sex And The City’ For Ruining His Penis After Unwanted Surgery

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A man in Australia claims that watching an episode of Sex And The City pressured him into getting his penis circumcised which resulted in his genitals being ‘mutilated’.

The season 2 episode titled ‘Old Dogs, New Dicks’ features Charlotte being unimpressed by the sight of her date’s uncircumcised willy. Worse still, when she shares this news with the rest of the girls over lunch, Miranda quips ‘I’m sorry, it’s not normal’. Penis shaming in full effect!

Here’s how Aussie man Bobo7ate broke down his experience on Reddit:

I will not be watching the Sex And The City reboot And Just Like That. The mere mention of the show sends a shiver down my spine.

Just over 20 years ago that show lead to the biggest mistake I have ever made: getting circumcised.

I was born in Australia in 1978, and the Anglo-Celtic men of my father’s generation were majority circumcised, as were men in the mostly American porn I’d seen, and I grew up hearing uncomplimentary references in American media.

I felt different – and I didn’t know it at the time, but about half of the men born the same year as me escaped the scalpel – including many of my friends.

I remember clearly watching the ninth episode of the second season of Sex and the city. I was 21 and watching with my siblings.

The episode – titled Old Dogs, New Dicks was all about Charlotte dating a man who wasn’t circumcised – the norm in the USA – and her disgust by it.

To sit and watch a show tell me that my body was revolting is something I will never forget. The women casually sat around the table body shaming men and their penises.

I remember Charlotte screwing up her nose and saying, “There was so much skin, it was like a shar-pei,” and feeling disgusted in my own body.

Then Miranda added: “I’m sorry, it is not normal.” I felt like I was screaming on the inside.

I had an ugly penis that people would forever judge me for.

Eventually, Charlotte pressures her boyfriend into getting the end of his penis cut off. After finding sex with him repulsive, she now gives him a “five out of five” score. Realising his cut penis has made him instantly more attractive to women, he leaves Charlotte. He was now a huge stud because he doesn’t have a foreskin.

After watching the show I knew I had to do one thing: get circumcised.

Weirdly, I had been sexually active for a few years at the time, and no women had ever mentioned it. Somehow I convinced myself they were being polite.

So, I booked myself an appointment with a urologist. I didn’t tell anybody else in the world. But I did tell the doctor why I wanted it – and in my opinion, he should not have agreed to perform the operation on somebody who was suffering from misguided self-esteem issues. He should have sent me to a psychologist or given me a friendly word about how it didn’t matter, or that I would soon no longer in the minority. He didn’t do that. He made a booking to circumcise me.

It’s a part of my body I can never get back.

I remember looking at it the first time. Bruised and stitched and sorry. I actually felt relieved. I felt so happy! I thought I was “normal” now.

The recovery from the operation was painful, as I had expected. It is often said that it is best to circumcise babies so they do not have to remember the pain. I would suggest that your child spending the first weeks of their life with an extremely painful penis is far worse than an adult deciding to do it to themselves. What a cruel welcome to the world.

The first time I wondered if I had done the right thing was when I tried to masturbate again. Masturbating with a foreskin is fluid, your hand stays on the same part of your shaft as the skin moves over the glans. Cut men either rub their hands up and down the entire penis (which is horrible without lube), or shuffle only shaft skin back and forth, never really stimulating the glans unless they were lucky enough too keep enough foreskin.

Eventually the head of my penis became much drier and much less sensitive; the purple sheen it was had is now rougher and paler. I honestly can’t describe how less sensitive, but thinking about how it now, I have tears in my eyes. I produce far less pre-ejaculate – almost none. There is a big scar around the middle of my penis – something the “it looks better” crowd never seem to mention, and the nerves around that area can feel incredibly strange – like bolts of lighting – after orgasm.

As time went on I discovered my new penis didn’t actually solve any of my problems. When I eventually told friends what I had done, they all asked why. So did the women I told.

I didn’t get circumcised because there was anything wrong with my penis – I did it because I felt shamed by American media and their immorally untrue message that foreskins are dirty and ugly.

This narrative in American media that foreskins are disgusting is still prevalent – Resident Alien, Bad Moms and You are just some of the shows and movies that body shame men who escaped genital mutilation at birth. As do comics such as Chelsea Handler, Amy Schumer and Leslie Jones.

We have to loudly reject the American attitude to men’s genital integrity – for a country with so many “woke” voices, how does their open acceptance of body shaming continue?

I literally had myself mutilated because of these messages, hoping that it would make me fit in. I cry for that 21 year-old kid.

If you’re considering circumcision for yourself: please don’t do it for the reasons I did. If you have conditions such as phimosis or lichen sclerosus, then steroid cream, laser and minor incisions are all now options.

If you’re considering it for your child: shame on you.

I will not be watching And Just Like That, and I will never forgive its predecessor for its treatment of male bodies.

Man, what a kick in the dick (so to speak). It’s weird enough that a 21-year-old man was watching Sex And The City, but allowing the show to dictate a life-changing, penis-mutilating decision for you? That’s a hell of a thing to be reminded of every time you look down at your mangled member.

He’s right about the doctor who green-lit the circumcision though – very unprofessional indeed! I’m pretty sure urologists don’t perform circumcisions for cosmetic reasons (in the UK anyway), so did he actually pay out of his own pocket for this? Either way, I guess he has to take responsibility for his decision.

For the teenager who circumcised himself with a machete after he was bullied about his foreskin, click HERE. When will it end?

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