Maybe it’s the new year hormones kicking in, reminding us all to leave what troubles we can behind in 2020 as we strive to make wiser and just generally better decisions in 2021.
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Before the year was up, someone made a Twitter thread asking people to share the biggest red flags they ignored in a partner. With nearly 20k responses, the comments are still flying in a week later.
what’s the biggest red flag you ever ignored? i’ll start. i dated a guy who drank vodka milks. not white russians. vodka with ice and whole milk. that’s on me.
— obj (@objsucks) December 27, 2020
Here are some of the best responses:
Dated a guy who didn’t know how to use a dishwasher/ let his mother do all of his laundry at the age of 20
— Natalie (STILL at home) (@natcmau) December 28, 2020
When asked what he wanted to do for a career by my mom, he said “i think i want to go into law enforcement” after my mom asked what interested him in that he said “because i like the feeling of power”
— Kenzie (@Kenziealaine) December 28, 2020
Got my name tattooed on him before we even started dating, while I was 17 and he was 23 lmfao
— madi (@MadiDurham) December 28, 2020
I dated a guy who used to share a single chocolate with his mother in the evening after supper. One chocolate cream and they’d cut it in half. I feel sick just thinking about it.
— Thank Dog! (@Stephanie_KJ) December 28, 2020
He told me he was an ordained pastafarian and legit went through the process of converting so he could wear a colander in his drivers license picture. And i still dated him because he had nice arms and broad shoulders. pic.twitter.com/sJJyw6XU4S
— Deja (@Dej_Af) December 28, 2020
I don’t want to be graphic so I’ll just say she offered up more than one hole on the first date
— Clays & Birds (@ClaysandBirds) December 27, 2020
I went home with a guy who put on a computer simulation of the titanic sinking and said he likes to watch it while he’s trying to fall asleep. It ends with screams. Probably not relevant – he was a philosophy professor & there was no 2nd date
— (@indiephlegm) December 28, 2020
my ex who once scrolled on Twitter and clicked on a photo of a half nude girl, looked back at me, and then said he “wouldn’t have to look at them” if I had sex with him more often also ignored me on my birthday and watched a 30 min video about eggs instead
— val (@Valiance) December 28, 2020
I met him in the psych ward, he was attracted to me because I “look 14”, lived in his car, told me he’s a compulsive liar, took all $4k of my savings, nearly killed us twice with wreckless driving, and worst of all he shamed me for liking antiques stores
— sam (@deaderspace) December 28, 2020
He used to get frustrated that I would help myself to a glass in his cupboards or open his fridge to pull out his Brita filter, so he duck taped his cabinets and fridge shut before I came over one night
— italianstallion (@ital93stallion) December 28, 2020
I HAD ONE DO THAT TOO!! luckily it was his bed tho
— woahh mann (@ashhhhhhole) December 28, 2020
told me he was shaky and pale bc he had scurvy but he was actually addicted to vyvanse and had to go to rehab :/
— onlyfans.com/tinderdistrict (@tinderdistrict) December 28, 2020
Had a sus amount of money (like g wagon, Porsche, another Benz, bmw) wouldn’t tell me what did, loaded guns all over the house, had changed his name, tags were fake… that’s just the beginning
— Aynsley (@aynslayy) December 28, 2020
My ex would get mad if I was ever in a bad mood, he told me “if you’re going to act like that you can leave, it’s interfering with my positive energy” Told me I can’t seem him till after my period was gone because he said it “grossed” him out
— ♡︎ (@cayxocay1718) December 28, 2020
he used to walk into his parents room when they were completely naked, when I said it was weird he replied “they’re under the sheets, no big deal”. Later on I found his tumblr account dedicated to incest porn, where he went on about wanting to shag his own mother
— emma (@ianbeaIe) December 28, 2020
he was a professional scooter rider
— madisonnn (she/her) (@madisonxell) December 28, 2020
He cried when I went to grab something from my car bc he thought I left in the morning without saying goodbye. We had been casually dating a week.
— Ally Masters (@_allymasters) December 27, 2020
I dated a guy who wouldn’t let me drink regular Gatorade because the sugar made me “too hyper” and it “wasn’t a healthy amount of sugar anyway” and would only buy/let me drink the lower calorie G2s. I wish I was kidding.
— Sarah (@skennnnyy) December 28, 2020
finally, my time to shine. he was once 8 hours late to a date. this was probably our second or third date ever. 8. fucking. hours. I sat around all day waiting on him like a fucking idiot. never again.
— adri (@adrixsof) December 28, 2020
Disney adult. I don’t mean a casual interest in Disney and anyone who’s met a DA knows this is something else entirely.
— Local Man Too Angry To Die (@SwervoT3k) December 28, 2020
torn between “the one where we moved in together after two months because I thought it would stop her from wrongly assuming I was cheating on her constantly” or “the (different) one where she came home at midnight with wet hair and said it was from rain (it was not raining)”
— adrian 2: still postin’ (@CrawfinUSA) December 27, 2020
He asked me for nudes while fully knowing I was at my grandfathers funeral
— fatou jallow’s bitch (@dykedelic) December 28, 2020
Dated a guy who a few months in was hit by a drunk driver going 15 mph. He wore a neck brace and sat on his couch for 6 mos while I paid his rent & left him cash on his dresser, from my job as a server. Finally his roomie told me he’d been faking it all for insurance payout.
— FairyStepMother (@afrenchpresser) December 28, 2020
On a first date, he came to the movie late and tipsy. He started eating peanut M&Ms, but only the chocolate….he spit the peanut out into the audience. I was mortified
— (@aduhh_) December 28, 2020
on my bday a guy cried all day about the state of the world. i got rid of my entire bday plans to take care of him indoors until it got dark. for dinner, he chose what we ate and then he asked to be alone for a few hours so i went to the pool by myself for a night swim and cried
— yung plath (@potatogina) December 28, 2020
Folded all his clothes before sex in a neat little pile and yelled at me if I didn’t do the same
— Roo (@abunchofglitter) December 28, 2020
man told me when he saw animals crossing the street he would speed up and try to hit it. this includes cats
— stupid (@maddiesharwell) December 28, 2020
Biggest red flag (there were too many): when his family used to walk into the house yelling: “is the Puerto Rican here? must be because it smells like rice n beans in here”
I’m still speechless and it was 10 years ago.
— xoxo, gossip girl (@LifeofCelly_) December 28, 2020
He took a “pee break” in the middle of our park date. Waved to me as he peed in the bushes near by. We went on our second date in the same spot.
— Sara Bergmark (@SaraBergmark) December 28, 2020
Every single person i introduced him to didnt like him. Every. Single. Person. I would introduce him so someone and immediately they asked if i was okay. I thought it would be okay. Lesson learned, trust your gut. He cheated on me 10+ times in a year over the phone + once irl
— Ro Francis (@Rocantdostuff) December 28, 2020
we were driving around and he played just the worst soundcloud rap song i’d ever heard, i said ew what is this and he said…that’s me…..
— moyoy woyllory #bIm (@MayaWolery) December 28, 2020
at 27 years old, his biggest accomplishment was that he won a local rock, paper, scissors tournament.
— b♡ (@brianne_maryy) December 28, 2020
being blamed for their dogs death because they “asked god for a sign on if I’m the one” and their dog dying happened to be what he thought was ✨the sign✨ but this isn’t the worst one just the one that makes absolutely no sense
— Kaia ☀️ (@KaiaVictoria) December 28, 2020
When he got caught in a lie while we were driving home and instead of just confessing he pretended to pass out behind the wheel going 80mph. I had to grab the wheel and hope we didn’t die
— OG FullMakup Alchemist (@n0tjasmine) December 28, 2020
First dinner w/her fam. She jokes the full moon gives her violent mood swings, she fist-fought her ex during one. I chuckle, then see her entire family wide-eye staring at me and slowly nodding.
— (former) Bartender Rich (@BartenderRich) December 28, 2020
when he jacked off his dog cause he thought it was ✨funny✨
— amanda (@little_mermanda) December 28, 2020
He told me he “brushed his mom’s hair before bed until she fell asleep.” And I was like: pic.twitter.com/wvkcvsXBG8
— c i a r a ✵ (@ciara_fulton) December 28, 2020
There was a brief period where I dated a dude who smoked a lot of K2 in his trailer but for some reason that doesn’t top the chill I got when I realized a different guy was collecting loose strands of my hair in his drawer
— Chill Lofi Beats to Quarantine to (@BobsForPine) December 28, 2020
Her mom asked me point blank was I sure I wanted to date her daughter.
— Adam (@adam___bomb) December 28, 2020
I once visited the home of a man I was dating. On his wall, affixed with bulletin board tacks, was a furry animal skin. A squirrel, maybe?? I asked about it.
He: “First thing I ever killed.”
Me: “You … shot that animal?”
He: “No, I hit it with my truck.”
— Christine Brandt (@LavishTantrums) December 28, 2020
Phew… that was nuts. In fact reading some of those made me feel a lot better about being single knowing what nut jobs and lunatics there are on the dating scene out there. There’s loads more too if you want to check them out in the original thread here.
Here’s hoping these people have learnt from their mistakes and take better heed of blatant red flags from here on.
To watch a girl go frighteningly ballistic when breaking up with her boyfriend over the phone, click HERE. Wow that’s terrifying.