I remember being a teenager and being pretty much desperate to lose my virginity despite the fact that it was obviously going to be a very nerve wracking experience – it was just something that you had to go through and get done ASAP so you didn’t get left behind. Of course you also had to make sure you were with someone you truly loved and all that stuff yadda yadda yadda but it was more just wanting to make it happen and know what it was like to stick in in ASAP. That just seemed like the culture back then.
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Anyway, it seems like this mentality is long gone amongst at least some members of the younger generation as new research has suggested that some millennials aren’t losing their virginity at all these days because they’re too scared of intimacy. In fact, as many as one in eight are still virgins at the age of 26 because it’s such a big problem.
Researchers from the Department for Education and University College London discovered this statistic when they started tracking 16,000 people who were born in 1989-90 and found out that one in eight of them were still virgins at the age of 26. The actual number could even potentially be higher as some of them refused to answer questions about their sex life i.e. they probably were virgins as well. This is a marked decline in previous generations, where the number was as low as one in twenty.
Susanna Abse, a psychoanalytic psychotherapist at the Balint Consultancy, explained why this might be happening:
Millenials have been brought up in a culture of hypersexuality which has bred a fear of intimacy.
The women are always up for it with beautiful hard bodies and the men have permanent erections.
That is daunting to young people.
The fear for young men is of being humiliated that they can’t live up to that, plus the fear of exposure in your Facebook group.
I mean yeah I’m not gonna lie it was kinda scary losing my viriginity, but again I just felt like I had to get it together and go for it. Guess people aren’t so into that now as they’re worried about their ‘Facebook Group’ (I assume this just means any form of social media) and how they might be perceived. I guess that is a genuine worry these days though and something I fortunately never had to deal with or even think about dealing with. Pretty happy about that now I think about it.
I suppose the one positive thing that you can take from this is that if you are a 26 year old virgin and you were worried about that, then you needn’t be because there are a whole load of people out there in the same boat. Don’t get involved with this incel crap and kill anyone, OK, you’ll figure it out in the end.
For more of the same, check out this 34 year old virgin who lives in his mom’s basement and uses her as a ‘wing mom’ to get chicks. Seriously.