I hadn’t heard of the term ‘adult breastfeeding relationship’ but I pretty much understood what it meant straight away, although it’s a little bit more skewed than you might think. It turns out that it is a relationship between two people who enjoy breastfeeding/being breastfed, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be sexual in nature and many are actually platonic, based around the very real hormonal bond that is formed via breastfeeding.
That might sound weird but apparently it isn’t at all because a hormone named Oxytocin is released when somebody is breastfeeding. This helps mothers develop their maternal instincts and our brains are also flooded with it when we orgasm, giving us stronger feelings for the person who helped take us over the edge. It’s essentially referred to as a ‘cuddle’ or ‘trust hormone’ which is why ABRs can be platonic.
Of course, there are also sexual ABRs and that’s where we come to this story. Apparently it’s quite a big underground movement, and it’s such a big deal for some people that this woman named Jennifer Mulford has quit her job so that her boyfriend Brad Leeson has access to her boobs (and the delicious milk contained within them) every two hours.
Here’s what Mulford had to say about their (somewhat) unique relationship:
When I read about the bond breastfeeding could create between two people, I was envious.
I have always enjoyed my breasts being touched during sex more than anything else, so I knew I would enjoy it.
When I read about the pure joy it brought others, I was desperate to seek out a partner to share an emotional bond with.
I knew that my college boyfriend Brad had a thing for big-breasted women, and that size had always been a factor in his relationships.
I thought it was the perfect time to bring up adult breastfeeding — and see if he’d be interested.
It was like a light switch flicked in his head. I could tell from his voice that he was curious and excited.
They started dating again and breastfeeding each other and the rest is history. Unfortunately, the fact that they were so into breastfeeding has meant that Mulford has also had to quit her job.
That’s because she hasn’t breastfed for twenty years and so her boobs need to be stimulated by Leeson’s mouth or a breast pump in order to induce lactation. This needs to be performed every two hours and that commitment was way too much to juggle her bartending job with, so just like that she quit.
You might think that’s kind of romantic and it might be if the two had been together for a couple of years and were deeply in love or on that higher level of a relationship that breastfeeding apparently gives you, but they’ve only actually just started dating each other so who knows how long it’s gonna last. Sounds like Mulford was just looking for a sugar daddy and is using her breast milk as the bartering tool in the relationship. Seems like she has a willing partner in Leeson though, at least for the time being.
Here’s some more stuff she has to say about the ins and outs of their relationship:
At that moment I knew that I had a partner for life.
We both wanted the same thing out of the relationship – a magical bond that only breastfeeding an achieve.
I’ve taken a break from my job because I want to devote everything to making this work.
Nights have been a struggle (they have to simulate the breasts every two hour then too) because Brad sleeps so peacefully but we manage to cope – until he falls asleep latched onto me, which is beautiful.
Brad goes to the gym because it makes him feel good about himself knowing he is shape and living a healthy lifestyle. He also tells me all the time that he does it for me because he wants other women to feel jealous of what I have.
He is a real alpha male but behind closed doors this relationship lets him put his guard down, be submissive and allow himself to be loved 100 per cent.
If it was up to Brad we would breast feed in public too, but it’s very private to me.
I’ll never say never but I love the time we spend nursing alone. It’s our time away from the rest of the world and I look forward to every feed.
After three days my breasts were starting to feel sore, but I am willing to push through any pain for our end goal.
It’s been difficult to distinguish the difference between nurturing and sex.
Although it’s so beautiful and peaceful it’s also erotic. It’s been hard to get through the first few nursing sessions without being tempted to have sex, but each time it’s getting easier.
This is a lifestyle we have chosen. We look forward to years from now still needing and wanting each other.
I can come home from a very stressful day and seconds after Brad latching on I feel a sense of peace and calm. For that time I feel like we become one. I have yet to feel anything more comforting.
It’s a bond that no one can come between.
Geez – ever heard of the phrase too much information Jennifer? I suppose if we can take anything from that, it sounds like she’s confident the relationship is going to work anyway.
Maybe everyone should start doing this when they have relationship problem. Alternatively, perhaps we could all just try these breast milk lollipops? Maybe that has the same effect?