Women Have Finally Revealed What Men Are Doing Wrong On Dating Sites
In the post-Tinder world we live in, these days it’s perfectly normal for men and women to find dates through websites and apps. But with the rise in popularity comes a rise in competition, and for many men it can be a dog eat, swipe left world.
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Luckily, if you’re one of these men who find it a struggle to secure a date on Tinder, or Happn or whatever other site you’re using, you can now seek advice from this recent Ask Reddit. Thank god for the internet.
In the recent conversation, the question asked: ’Women on dating websites: What are men doing wrong?’ Turns out, it’s quite a lot. Here are just some of the suggestions:
qtbabyy: Messages saying how “perfect” they think I am and asking for marriage. Like uh no you don’t know anything about me. Saying things like “I’ll spoil you” etc, being extremely sexual right away. Saying “hi” then after they get a response they respond with “Ima fuck you so hard til you scream.”
kemahaney: Saying nice guy – nice guy is wicked passive aggressive. It is like you have to convince yourself of that but the reality is you can be a dick. Sending dick pics – seriously don’t want to see it. Asking for pics of my tits.
Wanna come over
Not knowing how to carry on a conversation
Referring to women as crazy in the first message
Pictures from their wedding as their profile picture (seriously)
headless, shirtless mirror shots
Not paying attention to any of the things in my profile (for example, I specifically state not 420 friendly in my profile – literally had someone message me whos “tagline” was Weed Is Life
Calling me Hun or Babe or Sweetheart or any other term of endearment before knowing me
No profile picture
venomoth91: Asking me to “Netflix and Chill” or something similar for our first meetup. I get that Tinder is supposedly a hookup app, but I gotta make sure you’re not a serial killer first before I let you into my place or go to yours.
Not being honest with your intentions. It’s perfectly fine if you only want to hookup or don’t want a relationship, but tell me that ASAP. Don’t take me out on a nice romantic date and then get upset that I didn’t want to have sex with you at the end. You’re the one who lied, not me.
Assuming I’m not interested if I don’t respond quickly. I work a ton and I’m often away from my phone when I’m busy. I’m not “ignoring you” but I will start to if you accuse me of it. The exception to this rule is if we’re having a conversation regarding plans to hang out in person later that day. If I know we’ve already scheduled something, I’ll try my best to respond quickly.
Asking me to send nudes. Just no. Go watch porn.
Bragging about your “big” dick. I’ve seen a lot of different dicks throughout my lifetime and they’ve all looked mostly the same. Your dick is not that special unless the guy attached to it is. Besides, if I like a guy enough to date him, I’m going to appreciate whatever he has down there simply because it’s his. Size really doesn’t matter.
Telling me not to wear heels on our first date because you’re afraid of me becoming taller than you (I list my height in my profile as a warning because I’m aware that a lot of guys don’t like tall women). If you’re that offended by a pair of shoes, I’m cancelling our first date and probably blocking you. Plus I don’t give AF if you’re shorter.
Saying you’d like to cook or buy me dinner because I’m “too skinny.” Why are you wasting your time talking to me if you don’t like my body? I love my healthy, athletic (and naturally skinny) body the way it is and I’m not gonna change it to fit some guy’s preferences.
eggrolt: Old photos on their profile. I was talking to this guy about and being catfished I said (as a joke), “…your photos aren’t from 2014 or something right?”. And he admitted that his photos were old and that he doesn’t look like that anymore.
MissyJ22: Immediately telling us they’re horny. Soooooo BORING
eatmelikeacannibal: Shirtless bathroom mirror selfie as profile photo.
ilovecorbin: This is kinda shallow but if you have a shirtless picture on your profile then I am completely turned off.
cullercoats: Not reading the information I have on my profile.
Amjo87: They don’t ask a question back after answering one. Not all guys but some. I usually just write them off as being social inept if I’m the one doing the asking all the time.
FuckCargoShorts: Assuming that us not responding to your message within half an hour means we’re not interested. We’re literally drowning in replies/messages and sometimes it takes awhile to sift through the garbage to find the ones we want to reply to.
pinkshdw666: Shirtless pics/ pics that just barely cover your dick. Group pics. I’m not trying to guess who you are. Only having one picture or thousands. Profile pictures with you drinking or groping some girl.
dove99: Using the snapchat dog filter. To be honest most of my friends have a 90% match rate so sifting through messages is hard. Maybe try to stand out? Some guy messaged me the other day saying “Hey you dropped something” I had to reply and say what, he said “your standards” so maybe get someones attention in a funny way?
Wow, thanks for the details. While there appears to be a whole plethora of material to work with there, it seems like the main issue is with guys who act arrogant, cocky and too forward, which should be easy enough to take on board. Just be yourself, strike up genuine conversation and whatever you do, NO DICK PICS.
For more on what not to do on dating apps, check out our weekly round up of best and worst Tinder conversations and profiles.